Monthly Blog Posts
Each month we will share a blog post or a podcast that will provide inspiration and encouragement.
September 2022:
“September is your 2nd January”:  This month we have a bonus blog post from Connie Portlas. As you enjoy the start of fall with its cooler weather, lean into a renewed sense of motivation as Connie has this year. (read more)….
“What directs your choices in your journey in life?”:  “It is so easy to let things like fear, difficulty and trouble in our lives direct us on how we handle what we are going through.” In this month’s blog post Naomi Anderson shares ways not to let fear fuel your choices. (read more)….
A Widow’s Heart Podcast Episodes 11″In this episode Pam interviews Dr Kimberly Harms, who has lost not only her husband but also her young adult son by suicide She offers great insight to those grieving a suicide death. A Widow’s Heart podcast is hosted by Widow Might Emeritus Board Member Pam Lundell. Subscribe wherever you get podcasts, so you don’t miss an episode. (listen here)….
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August 2022:
“God Welcomes Your Hard Emotions”:  “Do my emotions matter to God?.” In this month’s blog post Lisa Appelo shares wisdom like “If we don’t deal with hard emotions on our terms now, they will come back on their terms later” and “Our emotions are not just safe with God. They are safest with God.” Be encouraged by Lisa to take all your emotions straight to God. (read more)….
A Widow’s Heart Podcast Episode 10″In this episode Pam interviews Wendie Pett, who talks about self-care while grieving and focusing on what is good. A Widow’s Heart podcast is hosted by Widow Might Emeritus Board Member Pam Lundell. Subscribe wherever you get podcasts, so you don’t miss an episode. (listen here)….
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July 2022:
“What’s My Next Step?”:  There comes a time when we need to take that next step. In this month’s blog post Naomi Anderson encourages you to take a next step and offers some suggestions about what that step might be. You will begin to do things you never thought you would be able to – one step at a time. (read more)….
A Widow’s Heart Podcast Episode 9″In this episode Pam interviews Amy Perrill. Amy, a young mom, shares her story of loss, grief, and God’s plan. A Widow’s Heart podcast is hosted by Widow Might Emeritus Board Member Pam Lundell. Subscribe wherever you get podcasts, so you don’t miss an episode. (listen here)….
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June 2022:
“10 Prayers in Grief and Loss”:  “Prayers in grief and loss are a lifeline when you’re navigating waves of pain. Prayer shifts our focus from our circumstance to God, our comfort and hope in the circumstance. Prayer unburdens a heavy and overwhelmed heart. And prayer in the loss of a loved one keeps us tethered to God, anchoring our faith and turbulent emotions. Sometimes, when we have no words for prayer, we can pray scripture or borrow prayers.” May you find comfort in these prayers. (read more)….
A Widow’s Heart Podcast Episodes 7 & 8″In Episode 7 Dr Melissa Mork, psychology professor, speaker, grief coach, author of “Navigating Grief with Humor”, and podcaster of “Mental Health with Dr Melissa Mork” shares the tasks of grief and how she applied them after the death of her husband and in Episode 8 Lisa Appelo author of “Life Can be Good Again: Putting Your World Back Together After It All Falls Apart” shares her story of suddenly losing her husband and becoming a single parent to 7 children ranging from ages 4 to age 20. A Widow’s Heart podcast is hosted by Widow Might Emeritus Board Member Pam Lundell. Subscribe wherever you get podcasts, so you don’t miss an episode. (listen here)….
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May 2022:
Blog post “Wife, Widow, Now What?”: When Rachel was 28 years old, her husband was diagnosed with leukemia and he died two days after she turned 31. She had to reboot her life and learn how to start over as a widow, without a map or guidebook to lead her. Rachel’s humor, moxie and faith helped get her through the cancer world, and survive the calamity of errors that kept-on coming after he died. Her hope is to provide you with some laughter, comfort, solace and guidance on your own journey, whether it be through the world of cancer, or any other life challenges. Here is a short excerpt from Rachel Engstrom‘s book that we hope will inspire you to move forward (read more)….
A Widow’s Heart Podcast Episodes 5 & 6″In Episode 5 Rachel Engstrom, author of “Wife, Widow, Now What?” shares her story after losing her husband to leukemia and in Episode 6 Lori Laron Heller shares her story after losing her husband to ALS and all that she has done to advocate for ALS research. A Widow’s Heart podcast is hosted by Widow Might Emeritus Board Member Pam Lundell. Subscribe wherever you get podcasts, so you don’t miss an episode. (listen here)….
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April 2022:  “Bored – Sad – Happy”
“Sadness is such a big part of grief.  We often wonder if we will ever be happy again.” “How do we get to the point that we can smile and have laughter as part of our daily life again?” If this is a question you are asking yourself, this month’s blog post by Naomi Anderson will encourage you to find ways to start to bringing joy back into your life (read more)….
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March 2022: A Widow’s Heart Podcast Episodes 2 & 3″
In Episode 2 Betsy Sathers shares her story of the grief and joy with Pam after losing her husband in a bridge disaster and in Episode 3 Gayle Roper, author of “A Widow’s Journey, shares her reflections on walking alone. A Widow’s Heart podcast is hosted by Widow Might Emeritus Board Member Pam Lundell. Subscribe wherever you get podcasts, so you don’t miss an episode. (listen here)….
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February 2022:  All Things New – Really?”
In this month’s blog post Naomi Anderson shares, “During the grieving process, it is really difficult to think of all things new for several reasons.  Each of us is different in how we handle things.  We are also at different stages of our grief.  Each year we think things will get better, but it certainly hasn’t gone that way so far.  Unfortunately, that process is not up to us, and we truly need to rely on God for each stage of life.” (read more)….
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January 2022:  Grief Is Like a Pair of Muddy Boots”
The blog this month comes from The Hospice Heart and in it grief is compared to a pair of muddy boots. “Grief is like a pair of muddy boots. The muddier they become, the harder it is to walk. That is what grief feels like. Grief is messy. Grief can be sticky and uncomfortable, and it can weigh so much that you feel like you are falling over a little bit each day from the weight of it all.” (read more)….

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A Widow’s Heart Podcast:  Episode 1″
Widow Might Emeritus Board Member Pam Lundell has launched a new podcast called A Widow’s Heart. Pam says: “When I lost my husband, several people at his homegoing service said, ‘Pam, God is going to use this for His Glory. Just wait and see.’ I wanted to tell them to go away, but, when I got out of my own way, God took over (and) the miracles haven’t ceased. Watch for God at work in your life every day!”. In this premier episode Pam tells her story and interviews Widow Might co-founder David Thielman.  Subscribe to A Widow’s Heart wherever you get podcasts, so you don’t miss an episode. (listen here)….

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December 2021:  What to expect during the holidays”
It’s that time of year already!  The time during good times, we look so forward to! But that may not be the case for you this year, as you face the holidays without your husband. In this month’s blog post Naomi Anderson gives us tips to help navigate the holiday season. (read more)….

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November 2021:  Step by Step!”
In this blog post Jana Sipe Berndt recalls the early days after her husband Randy’s death on Nov 1, 2014. She shares how she learned to deal with the change, loss and grief then and still today step by step. (read more)….

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October 2021:  Disappointment”
This month Kathy Scheffler, Widow Might Executive Director, shares with us about a feeling many widows experience well into their widowhood. Disappointment has a way of coming back into our lives time and time again, sometimes expected and sometimes catching us by surprise. Kathy shares a recent disappointment she felt and how she dealt with it in hopes that this will encourage you in dealing with your own disappointments in a positive way.  (read more)….

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September 2021:  The Many Rooms of Grief”
Have you ever thought of the memories of your marriage as a house with many rooms? In this month’s blog post the writer states “As my grief progresses, I’ll visit one of those rooms and I’ll remember our time together, and I’ll feel the pain of loss for that thing we shared, then I’ll ‘clean out the room,’ process the memory and deal with the grief. And when I’m done, I’ll leave that room, and I’ll close that door, and I’ll be done with that memory and the grief it evokes. Maybe I’ll revisit it now and then, but it will be mostly ‘sorted and cleaned’ and it won’t hurt nearly as much as the first experience.” (read more)….

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August 2021:  Making Choices or Decisions”
“Making decisions isn’t always easy to do!   Especially now that we are making decisions or choices on our own.” This month Naomi Anderson shares with us she relies on God as well as others trusted people in her life to navigate through the choices and give her wise counsel. (read more)….

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July 2021:  Be Still”
The summer of 2021 may feel a bit out of control as we do many fun activities that we couldn’t do in 2020. This likely has you longing for some stillness. In this blog post Miki Speer shares that happiness is not the same as peace and that true peace comes in being still and trusting God. (read more)….

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June 2021:  When You Honor Memorial Day as a Marine Widow
As we reflect on the recent Memorial Day holiday, we share the story of Kelli Campbell a Marine widow. As a young widow with 4 children she tells us about her husband and his death and how “fearing the worst wouldn’t have prepared me for it or prevented it, but fear would have kept us from enjoying to the fullest the fifteen years God had planned”. Your story may be similar or very different than Kelli’s but her faith will inspire you. (read more)….

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May 2021:  Grace and Mercy
What do grace and mercy have to do with widowhood? In this blog post Naomi Anderson defines these words and shows how they are important for healing and moving forward. (read more)….

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Organ Donation Month 2021:  Donate Life!
Were you able to donate your husband’s organs? Have you “checked the box” to be an organ donor yourself? In this blog post Jana Sipe Berndt shares how her husband Randy’s generous gift impacted not only the lives of the recipients of his organs but also impacted her. (read more)….

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April 2021:  Grieving at Easter Time
For those who have recently lost their husband, or who lost him around Easter time, this can be a holiday that brings up old baggage. Performing old family rituals reminds us of those who are supposed to be there, year after year – and when they can’t be, it hurts. This blog includes five tips for mourners this spring. (read more)….

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March 2021:  Anticipation or Expectations
There are many things we tend to anticipate, but how do we do this in a positive manner when we have lost someone close to us? In this blog from Naomi Anderson she quotes Anna Grace Taylor which encourages us to “Never forget how far you’ve come. Never forget how much strength you have learned and developed along the way.” (read more)….

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Valentine’s Day 2021:  Roses are Red, Heart are Blue
This special Valentine’s blog comes from Minnesota widow and author of “Finding Norm” Jana Sipe Berndt. In this blog Jana shares her personal memories and struggles around Valentine’s day as well as how she has learned to survive this holiday.  (read more)….

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February 2021:  How Much is in our Checking Account?
Connie Portlas, widow and financial coach, shares the financial stress she felt after her husband’s death “How am I going to pay for his funeral!? What about health insurance? How will I pay for college? How much is in our checking account?” and how “After everyone went home after the funeral I started to take control of my situation 1 step at a time.”  (read more)….

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January 2021:  Rediscovering Joy Through a Season of Quarantine
Jana Sipe Berndt, widow and author of “Finding Norm”, shares in her recent blog post: “Loss is hard. No matter how it comes to you, it’s a punch in the gut. It’s shocking. It’s often harsh. In these unprecedented times, we are all experiencing loss to some degree or another.” (read more)….

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December 2020:  Thankfulness
What are you thankful for?  During tough times can we be thankful?  With the loss of our spouse, how are we to be thankful? The Thanksgiving holiday has passed but there is much to be grateful for all year long and Naomi Anderson helps us to reflect on those things. (read more)….

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November 2020:  Honor Your Limitations
Kim Denyes, a Spiritual Director with Minnesota ties, invites us to search ourselves for our limitations, name them, and then honor them as God does. (read more)….

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October 2020:  Puddles
Renee Salzbrenner, a member of the North East Metro (White Bear Lake) widow connect group, shares about the puddles of grief. “Some of the puddles of grief I’ve been in are the ‘walk into puddles’, others that come are the ‘back into puddles’, or sometimes you find that it’s a ‘sit in the puddle’”. (read more)…. (puddles in my heart picture)….

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September 2020:  Be Proactive Over Loneliness
Loneliness and isolation are a reality for all Americans today. The new normal of social distancing, working from home, limited public gatherings, and the general anxiety over the spreading virus has led to isolation and loneliness like never before. Jayne Poli gives us five practical ways to be proactive over loneliness. (read more)….

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August 2020:  Becoming Independent
Naomi Anderson states by nature, some of us are independent and some are not.  We are either followers or leaders.  It seems it is just who we are – neither is good or bad. Some of it is a learned behavior based on our upbringing.  Some is based on events that have happened in our lives.   We all seem to go through highs and lows in our lives.  Many times we become who we are by the way we react to these events.   (read more)….

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July 2020:  New Normal
Patty, a member of the North Metro #1 (Big Lake) widow connect group, shares about her experience with finding a new normal after the loss of both her son and her husband  (read more)….

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June 2020:  God in the Silence
Patsy Pearson shares the many qualities of silence and how God can use the silence in our lives to speak truths to us (read more)….

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May 2020:  Self-Reflection
Naomi Anderson reflects on her time as a new widow and compares it to her new normal during in this time of coronavirus (read more)….

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April 2020:  It’s Hard Being You
Carrie Curran reminds us that “When we are forced into social distancing it is so important to find ways to connect with the people that are in your life.” because “Doing life is hard, doing it alone is even harder.” (read more)….

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March 2020:  Are You Being Blessed Today
Naomi Anderson writes: “Regardless if we have been widowed or are just going through a tough time in our life, God promises to walk with us in the midst of what we are going through.  Psalms 138:7 reads:  Though I walk in the midst of trouble, you preserve my life. You stretch out your hand against the anger of my foes; with your right hand you save me. (NIV)” (read more)….

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February 2020:  New!
Patsy Pearson reminds us of the wonder of ‘new’ things in our lives, and how God’s presence and compassion is continuously new (read more)….

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January 2020:  Anticipating the New Year
Naomi Anderson, Advisory Council Member, and Widow Connect Group Coordinator for Widow Might. Naomi’s New Year insights from several years ago are timeless.  “With each New Year we often have anticipations of what we are hoping for.  When we think about the prior year, we may be thinking we made it.  But we are hoping this next year will be better.” (read more)….

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December 2019:  Holiday Ready or Not…
Naomi Anderson, Advisory Council Member, and Widow Connect Group Coordinator for Widow Might shares her personal blog and unique perspective of the holiday season.  “With Thanksgiving behind us for this year and the Christmas holiday just around the corner, this can be the time of year that may be very difficult for many people.” (read more)….

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November 2019:  Things NOT to Say to a New Widow
Kristin Meekhof, author of “A Widow’s Guide to Healing:  Gentle Support and Advice for the First 5 years,” shares her emotional journey through her husband’s final weeks after his diagnosis and shares that “My life changed because of his death and because of my husband’s beautiful acceptance of his death.

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October 2019:  The Moment I Knew
Kristin Meekhof, author of “A Widow’s Guide to Healing:  Gentle Support and Advice for the First 5 years,” shares her emotional journey through her husband’s final weeks after his diagnosis and shares that “My life changed because of his death and because of my husband’s beautiful acceptance of his death.